Peace of mind and Relationships

As a part of the whole , we are always in relationship with the world around us . We are in relationship with nature , work and home, with the loved ones and even with ourselves. But the question is not what we are relating to but how we relate to everything and everyone. Where are those relationships and how we feel about them. We may be at peace or conflict , resisting or accepting , supportive or nonsupportive , loving or not they are all in our mind.

for example if we consider someone  who we  have conflict with where is the conflict? What is going on in our mind ? What are we dwelling on? what are we we thinking about them? Although they don’t  hear it but energetically they will feel it. Our nonpeace would affect them as well and they will respond accordingly. Some may even continue to hold the grudges after the person has passed. So now where is the person and where is the relationship ? Only in the mind of the one who thinks about it . And what we see is only the reflection of the mind.

I recognized if I make  peace with that person in my mind rather than trying to change them it will have two benefit. First I feel in charge rather than victim and that is empowering. Second it gives me peace of mind even if  nothing on the outside changes yet. But I make sure to release my attachment to the outcome of what I think I want which is change in another . They may or may not change and that is not my concern. I can’t change them but I can change my mind about them .I am only responsible for my thoughts and actions and my own inner space. Since when I have peace I radiate peace and that is how I contribute to the peace or the collective .The opposite is true as well that if I am in war with someone even in my mind I am contributing in a negative way.

There may be resistance at first but where is the resistance and what we are resisting to? The mind always want to be right and we may unknowingly identify with our beliefs about the situation or person or place but where we got all those ideas from other than parents , society and friends and experiences. They are not us and they are all learned ideas and beliefs that could be examined and let go if they are not bringing us peace.

We might say but that behavour is not acceptable or we can’t let it go or forgive but we need to remember that those are not who they are and it just happens through them because they either not at peace with themselves or are not aware at the moment . That gives us the good reason to have compassion for them. They are just the channel for negativity or anger or anything else and the first person feels it at the deeper level is them.We learn to see the truth of their being.

By choosing to have peace we respond rather than react. We lead with our peace rather than follow negativity by reacting .We act from the place of Supreme  than the ego. Since all mind are connected we help others have peace when we do . We radiate that peace  and live in peace independent of outside circumstances. We help to bring peace in our own inner space and then our home and society . We can be grateful for the message and lessons and contribute to the peace of the planet by  feeling gratitude  in our heart which affects our body in positive way.

Holidays or Holy Days is a good time to purify our thoughts and feelings about our relationships and by having mental house cleaning we fill it with love and correct them where it needs correction. We give ourselves as well as others a gift of peace and create Supreme Balance in our lives.

Happy Holidays!

Peace & gratitude,

Shohreh